Tips for sexually exciting women in the online chat room
If you’ve checked out all the reviews of sex dating sites, and you’ve found a casual dating site that works for you, and it seems like you’re not having any luck talking to the ladies, then allow me to give you a little bit advice on the topic. These are some good ideas from a woman to newb adult dating site blokes and some tips for sexual exciting your new crush in the chat room.
Ask her what she likes, not who she likes
Talking to women in online chat rooms isn’t really tricky, but there are certain things that you should avoid because they’re likely not going to get you where you want to go. For instance, asking a girl what she likes in a man is not nearly as effective as asking her what she likes in bed. Why? Because now she’s going to respond with her notion of what an ideal man is like and there isn’t a bloke on earth who’s going to live up to the fantasy, least of all you. Without realizing it, you’ve already set yourself up for failure, and there’s literally no way back from that. She likely hates the question because it puts her on the spot and there’s an expectation on the side of the one asking it that they’re going to see a bit of themselves in that description. She anticipates that and now she’s feeling a little sorry for you because know matter how pretty you are, you’re not as pretty as her fantasy man.
Asking her what she likes, or what turns her on erotically, is a much better question to lead with. Firstly, you get her talking about herself, and as a woman, I can tell you that we really like talking about ourselves. In fact, it’s just about our favorite topic of conversation. Not only that but she’s giving you important cues as to what she’s into, and if you’re into her it would behoove you to listen closely, or even jot them down if you’re memory isn’t so great. She’s going to expect that you know these things and even infer several more corollary bits about her if you ever expect to see her naked. Why? That’s just how women are.
Erotic role play with cybersex
One of the best casual dating tips I can offer a bloke who wants to turn on a lady in the online chat feature of an adult dating website is to engage her a little live action erotic role play, also known as cybersex.
Cybersex is a big deal for women and it’s one of those things that can really make her horny. So if you’ve paid careful attention to what she said when you ask her what’s the sort of stuff that turns her on, then you can work that to your advantage in the cybersex session.
Women love cyber sex because not only does it engage our imagination, but we tend to be verbally stimulate. I actually use it to screen potential lovers on my dating service. If a bloke is all about his own dick and not my body then I take that as a sign that he’s a selfish lover, and there’s nothing worse than a selfish lover. If the bloke comes on a little too strong and gets to my pussy after three to five sentences, I can be safe in assuming he’s a premature ejaculator. If the bloke is all waiting for me to tell him what to do then he’s probably either not very experienced or a submissive, which is fine for cougars and dominatrixes, but it’s really not my thing.
The best sessions on with patient, educated, and experienced lovers who now how to take the lead and focus their attention on me, which is where I like it the most.
If the session gets particularly hot, I like to pull them aside into a cam to cam chat and let them see my body while they masturbate. This gives me a chance to get to know what they like and they can give me commands in order to them on, which turns me on.
If that goes well then I know that boy is going to be fun in the sack and we make some plans to meet up and have a little toss in the hay. So if you’ve been paying attention here it should give you leg up you need to get her going in the chatroom and then if it works out right, later you can have her in the bedroom too.