How to know if they are not cheating
3 signs they obviously aren’t cheating
I’m sure like many of us you have sat back at some point and wondered, “Is he or she cheating on me?”. You don’t have anything specific in mind except that, like in all relationships, things occasionally seem stale, mundane, or boring. Also, cheating, extra-marital hook-ups, and affairs of all kinds seem to have become so commonplace that you think to yourself “why should I be immune?”. You’ve had girlfriends who’ve recently caught their men red handed and you’ve gotten a little worried that you will be next. So, what are the signs they are having an affair? More importantly, what are the signs that they aren’t cheating? Yeah, let’s go with that one. There is enough negativity in the world, let’s look for something positive. Something like partners who are actually as committed as they’ve said they are. People who’ve stared opportunities to cheat in the face and turned away.
Signs of cheating?
First, after 1, 2, 5, or even 10 years do you have a partner or spouse who, not every day, but on some type of regular or semi-regular basis is still looking for simple down to earth opportunities to please you, make your day, or make you feel special? Do you get the occasional random sticky note on the bathroom mirror in the morning telling you how much you are loved and/or how you will be missed throughout the day as your lover departs for yet another day to “do battle with the world” in order to build the framework of stability upon which your life together rests? Or, are you one of the rare women who is the envy of all the others in the office because you get flowers out of the blue from your mate. If this is your life… hold on for dear life to it because it is special and you’ve most likely got a keeper.
In an era where we conduct so much of our lives on our phones and other electronic devices there is a long and detailed cyber trail of a person’s activities, priorities, trials, tragedies and triumphs that our lives are literally recorded for all to see if they want to take the time to look. An obvious cheater will often go to great lengths to hide their electronic device because it is full of evidence of a secret life they don’t want you to know about. On the other hand, a person who has nothing to hide will often leave their phone laying around in plain site, not be tethered to it 24/7, and have no problem letting you borrow or use it occasionally because there is nothing incriminating on it so they have no qualms about giving you access.
Finally, if things have gotten a little stale in the bedroom, too predictable on date night, so familiar as to breed some mild contempt at times…? Not to worry, it happens in all relationships. But in the special ones with special people you will have a mate you can discuss these things openly with who will not immediately become defensive or dismiss your concerns out of hand. You can actually sit down with this person, work as a team and develop solutions to work toward getting your relationship back on track and heading in the happy, romantic, and loving directions you hope for. Again, this is rare, and if you’ve found it hold on tight and don’t let go because he or she is worth it!