3 signs they are obviously not cheating in Saskatoon, Canada

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How to know if they are not cheating

3 signs they obviously aren’t cheating

I’m sure like many of us you have sat back at some point and wondered, “Is he or she cheating on me?”. You don’t have anything specific in mind except that, like in all relationships, things occasionally seem stale, mundane, or boring. Also, cheating, extra-marital hook-ups, and affairs of all kinds seem to have become so commonplace that you think to yourself “why should I be immune?”. You’ve had girlfriends who’ve recently caught their men red handed and you’ve gotten a little worried that you will be next. So, what are the signs they are having an affair? More importantly, what are the signs that they aren’t cheating? Yeah, let’s go with that one. There is enough negativity in the world, let’s look for something positive. Something like partners who are actually as committed as they’ve said they are. People who’ve stared opportunities to cheat in the face and turned away.

Signs of cheating?

First, after 1, 2, 5, or even 10 years do you have a partner or spouse who, not every day, but on some type of regular or semi-regular basis is still looking for simple down to earth opportunities to please you, make your day, or make you feel special? Do you get the occasional random sticky note on the bathroom mirror in the morning telling you how much you are loved and/or how you will be missed throughout the day as your lover departs for yet another day to “do battle with the world” in order to build the framework of stability upon which your life together rests? Or, are you one of the rare women who is the envy of all the others in the office because you get flowers out of the blue from your mate. If this is your life… hold on for dear life to it because it is special and you’ve most likely got a keeper.

In an era where we conduct so much of our lives on our phones and other electronic devices there is a long and detailed cyber trail of a person’s activities, priorities, trials, tragedies and triumphs that our lives are literally recorded for all to see if they want to take the time to look. An obvious cheater will often go to great lengths to hide their electronic device because it is full of evidence of a secret life they don’t want you to know about. On the other hand, a person who has nothing to hide will often leave their phone laying around in plain site, not be tethered to it 24/7, and have no problem letting you borrow or use it occasionally because there is nothing incriminating on it so they have no qualms about giving you access.

Finally, if things have gotten a little stale in the bedroom, too predictable on date night, so familiar as to breed some mild contempt at times…? Not to worry, it happens in all relationships. But in the special ones with special people you will have a mate you can discuss these things openly with who will not immediately become defensive or dismiss your concerns out of hand. You can actually sit down with this person, work as a team and develop solutions to work toward getting your relationship back on track and heading in the happy, romantic, and loving directions you hope for. Again, this is rare, and if you’ve found it hold on tight and don’t let go because he or she is worth it!

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Catching them in the act of cheating in 5 easy steps in Kanata, Canada

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How to catch them in the act of cheating

Have you ever been in a relationship where it had already gone sour in your mind, and you had decided that a breakup was imminent, but you just wanted to catch the bastard first! Catch him? Yes, catch him cheating. You’ve been suspecting it for weeks now due to massive behavior changes, text, call log, photographic and other phone clues, and a host of other things. However, despite the mounting evidence, you still haven’t had the confidence to make the leap and call him out on any of it. Mostly because you haven’t come across that one piece of evidence yet that nails him truly red handed, and when you confront him you want to make sure you have proper ammo, so to speak.

This may take some PI-like detective work and a bit of a devious nature, but you are prepared to do what’s necessary to bring this guy to “relationship justice”. Enough being duped. Enough being made a fool of. Enough taking care of a guy who doesn’t deserve your heart let alone your care and devotion. So, I’m here to help you nail him before you kick him to the curb.

Five easy steps to catch a cheater

First, and before I go any further, you are committed to nailing this guy, right? Ok. First, you’ve got to get him to let or keep his guard down by keeping things status quo or even being a little sweeter to him than normal.

Next, you’ve got to employ a team. Get your friends in on the act. Have them watching him about town, in cyberspace, and at work if any of them or their husbands or boyfriends happen to work with this guy. All watching him for the fatal mistake.

Then, set up a couple mystery facebook admirers or sexy new twitter followers who send explicit photos or make sexy friend requests. Someone who is willing to develop a false profile and use altered pictures will be necessary here. I told you you had to be committed to this.

Now, your network of spies and net of justice are growing to encompass much of his world. Now it’s time to start throwing in random surprise visits at work around lunch time or even at his work when he says he is working late. In this case you would use the pretense of bringing him dinner to help him get through the late night. These unexpected visits are bound to yield some slip ups on his part or help you catch him in the act of cheating.

Finally, you could hire a PI. I told you this was going to be intense. Yes, a PI to secretly follow this guy around for a couple weeks. This may be one for the married ladies who have more at stake, more to lose or gain in catching a cheater. If he’s cheating this will definitely get the job done in catching him, and you will have all the evidence you need to nail him to the wall when you finally confront him.

All that being said, if your suspicions run that strong and the fire has died for you, I recommend just getting on with it and kicking him to the curb without warning. But if you must catch him then you must. Now you know how to catch them cheating. Happy hunting!

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Are You Paranoid Your Partner Is Cheating?

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Is he cheating? Or isn’t he? How to know for sure

Adultery: How can you tell paranoia from evidence

In Sandwell, UK and all around the world people live in fear and cheating paranoia of being the victim of infidelity. “Is he cheating?”. “Is she cheating?”. Your best friend and your boyfriend seem awfully chummy and you find out they’re texting each other on a regular basis about things that are completely unrelated to you—supposedly their common element. “Are they cheating?”.

Living in fear and paranoia is a terrible thing. Just ask anyone with a guilty conscience or an addict who has gotten his fix but now feels like the whole world knows about it. Why anyone would bring this type of dread upon themselves for the sake of a relationship they obviously don’t think is solid is beyond me, but millions of people do it every day. I say let what will be just be. If you have worked yourself into a frenzy of distrust, jealousy, and paranoia over a “lover” who is constantly giving you new reasons to worry, then you’ve got to ask yourself some hard questions about where you’re at in your life. Let’s take a look at a few, shall we?

Adultery: What’s Wrong With You and How Can You Fix It?

If you are putting yourself through the miseries described above you have got some serious holes in your own psyche you need to deal with before you continue jumping from one dysfunctional relationship to the next.

Things happen to us in life. Good things, bad things, awful things. Experience, of all kinds, is simply part of living, and as an adult you must learn how to face and deal with these triumphs and tragedies as the equal imposters they are. What do I mean? Just this: nothing is quite as good or as bad, as high or as low, as dark or as light as it may have seemed at first. This is not a personal philosophy, it is simple fact. Much of our perception of events in our lives is wrapped up in our emotions and how they color our reality. Keep this in mind the next time you think you have found “the one”. That person you must hold onto at all costs… even if you come to distrust them on such a basic level that it eats you alive. This is not love, it’s co-dependence. So don’t fall for it.

Search yourself and find out what’s missing within that keeps you from being happy regardless of your relationship status. When you find out what that missing link is go out and seek it with all your heart, mind, and soul because when you can catch up to it and integrate it into your life you will heal yourself. And when you do that, you will no longer live in fear and paranoia of being cheated on because you will either be happy by yourself or you will seek and attract higher quality mates who will not make an old man or woman out of you before your time.

It is a simple concept: “first take care of yourself so that you can be healthy and then reach out to care for others”. Just like the instructions they give you on the airlines about securing your own oxygen mask first before trying to assist your child or a person in need next to you. The reason? If you pass out before you can help them, now you aren’t any good to either one of you. So many people miss or ignore this simple truth, especially those who repeatedly put themselves through the hell of a dysfunctional relationship that sucks the life out of them.

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